Ex's..... As Friends?

Is being friends with an ex really manageable or is it like trying to find that elusive unicorn? Is it possible? For me personally I would like to think that it is possible, it's all in how the relationship ended. If it ended with a knock down drag out fight, that may not be the best situation, but if you both have decided that in the end it's not going to work out romantically then maybe a solid friendship can blossom.... I believe that flower is slowly blossoming for me.

I won't lie that I've not always tired to be friends with an ex once things where over, but sometimes it was for the best of both parties. Other times I tried, but the other side just felt it necessary to cause the other pain. But for the most part I've tried to remain a friend and be there for the other person. Love isn't just an on/off switch that can be easily turned off. You can fall out of love, but that doesn't mean you still don't love that person, just not in the sense of being romantically linked to them. This story is about a boy and a girl.

When I love, I love hard, so when I must pick myself up off the floor and dust myself off from a breakup it doesn't happen over night for me. It takes a while for me to put myself back together. In these case of my last relationship, the love is still there, but I know that for both of us to be happy that the next step must take place; and that is not losing the other indefinitely. For the most part the relationship we shared was an amazing one that had mostly all highs with a few lows, but in the end maybe it was for the best that we close that chapter of our love life. This new chapter will only bring renewed success as friends, but it will also keep that love we both do share for one another strong. Just in that friend kind of love that only friends have. We are both mature adults and know that it is a two-way street for this to work out. Only time will tell.

 
But I feel that I am a strong enough individual to make this work. Like I said, I couldn't imagine my life with that void of her not being there at very least as my friend. We share to many wonderful memories just to throw them completely away. Some might say it can't work, some will say you are only going to hurt yourself in the end, but I know it can be done. It's not like I'm hunting for that damn elusive unicorn that doesn't exist.

In the end of failed relationship a person has two roads that they can choose to travel, the high road and that means being a better friend and trying to make things work out; or they can take the road less traveled and call it quits or be a complete asshole to the other party just to try and make themselves feel better. No one gets anything out of that road. I feel that for a friendship to succeed both parties must put an effort into it for the flower to fully blossom. What kind of flower could grow from it, who knows, it could be the most beautiful flower one has ever seen; or it could be one that never matures and dies before it is even born.

So in closing the sky is the limit and the future is now, so this flower of friendship is going to bloom into something wonderful that only two hearts can share... It's either friends or bust!!

What We Make of Today!

There is no time like NOW! In a world of what if's and no one can paint the future, we must take a stand for the moment that we live in now. I use to be one of the most optimistic people out there, sadly I even have my days where I only see the glass half empty. I think everyone in their life has their ups and downs. Like the old saying, what doesn't kill us only makes us stronger. Well it is true, although I won't lie sometimes I think it would be far easier if those things did just put us out of our misery. But this to shall pass and one must make the best out of the now.

I have nights were I lay in bed, tired as all, but my brain just wont shut off. Last night was one of those nights. I worked until midnight, got home put on a movie, watched it; and was still wide awake. Guess there is just a lot on my mind these days. Work is alright, nothing to write home about, the city of Tucson is ok, but there is bigger and better out there; and then relationships... Well as I get older it seems that I fall harder and harder for the woman that I am with, you could say I am a softy at my more mature years. Right now, my heart hurts and I'm working on ok each and every day... (great song by Cross Canadian Ragweed by the way!) They say it's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. Not sure I really am buying this BS that they are trying to sale. But again, we live and we learn; and we move forward!! This is why I have some good days and some not so good days right now in life. It will get better, oh yes it will!

So what is it that we must do to make it today? Do what you love! Quit using excuses and take that bull by the horns; and kick its ass!! Pull up those boots up by the strap and march to your own beat. Today is the day I start living... for ME!! Just like one of Stuart Smally laughable quotes, "I deserve good things, I am entitled to my share of happiness. I refuse to beat myself up. I am an attractive person. I am fun to be with." I love it!! This is me to a T. I deserve good things in my life, that means a great career that I am actually appreciated, not just another worker bee and people that want to include me in their life, because well I am just awesome.

Today is my day; and from here on out, if you aren't with me then go fuck yourselves!!

P.S. one more thing... Have a nice day :)